This I Believe: Different Kids, Different Stuff

This morning I shared a "This I Believe" statement on motherhood.
It was a very interesting experience... coming up with "one", writing, rewriting, wondering if it was true of me and hoping it wasn't too late for it to continue to be more and more true.

In rehearsal this morning I thought my reading was very dry so I asked if we could have live music underscore and Chris and Marshall played. Something very tender about having your kid play, while you talk about parenting him and his sisters, who at the eleventh hour service were also in the room.

Here's the script:

As a mother I believe, "Different kids, different stuff" Different opportunites, different expectations, different communication styles even, different… curfews.

Ephesians 2:10 “For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”

I believe this is true not just of adults, but of our children. We are each God’s workmanship, literally a thing of God’s making, and that's why I say, “Different kids, different stuff”

We have three very different kids. I can only explain it as God's intent and design that the same set of genes produced three remarkably different kids.
In our culture, we’re programmed to channel our children to pursue sports, music, education, and financial success. But I believe, as a follower of Christ, my greatest encouragement to my kids should come when they pursue God and the use of their spiritual gifts to do the good works which God has prepared for them to do, in our home that’s mercy, administration, teaching, communication and service.

This has challenged me.
I’m sure this never happens to you, but in our home when a child succeeds I can feel pretty proud as a parent, as if I have anything really to do with it. But, what we may really be experiencing in their achievements is God’s touch on them when they serve Him as they are designed.

His design intended for His purpose, for which He should receive praise.

I believe that one of my greatest responsibilities as a parent, a mother, is making sure the discovery of God’s design for them is high on our family radar. Parenting them to explore opportunities which create natural and unique pathways toward what God may have in mind for them, rather than toward our own glory or even theirs.

Happy Mother’s Day

Beauty in the Broken

I love love and I love kindness and I wish the churches would emphasize kindness to everybody.-- Rowan LeCompte

I love stained glass windows. Always have. One of my most prized possessions is a stained glass piece my father made. I remember selecting glass with him, our family room taken over for a season by a ping pong table repurposed for his "art", i remember him teaching me to cut, the smell of the melting came (lead). I love the concept of broken pieces coming together and becoming something beautiful when light shines through them. Love love love that.

Easter morning I heard an interview with Rowan LeCompte whose work have been on display in the stained glass windows of the Washington National Cathedral for more than half a century. This interview has stuck with me. I can't shake the sound of his voice, the way he experiences life, what is there and what is missing. It made me feel deeply, joy, beauty and sadness. If you have 9 minutes check it out here.

Where nature may heal...

This weekend we went to the beach.
For a girl who has always lived within an hour of the beach, that seems like the most ordinary statement.
But, in fact, this would be a better expression of our experience.

Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul. - John Muir

When we arrived to the beach house, to the wall of windows facing the grass, sand and water,even the Adirondack chair on the bluff, I was stunned by the beauty of it. Near speechless for quite some time. I decided, in that moment, to turn off what has become routine for me- noise, problem solving, routine and technology and just to BE in the moment, each moment of our time there. It was so healing and restorative to my soul that words seem trite- so i'll share some pictures and encourage each of you to get away to some place soon where nature may heal.

Riley on the path
the beauty, complexity and individuality of our children's faces
JOY! Riley and Abby
diamonds and Kiehl, Riley and Abby

Guest writer

So, haven't blogged for a while... rough few weeks emotionally dealing with "stuff" and losses at work and oh yeah, Holy Week and Easter had me pretty busy. I did pull together a guest post on a friends blog. The post is about my kids growing up and includes a ridiculous picture of me if that's interesting to you, check it out here.

the end of an era...

Last week Molly was in Anaheim for 5 days competing at the USA cheer nationals. Here's a clip of their competition. The team placed fourth in the nation in their division.
This ends Molly's 10 years of cheering. Hard to believe.